Wednesday, June 30, 2010


So I work in a marketing and public relations department and part of our job is to pick out promotional items for the other departments of the organization. Our director sent us all a sample of something that she thought was cool. (I should offer up a little background on our department, we have a great time. Our director is one of the best people I've ever had the privilege of working with. We do a TON of work, but laugh a lot about almost everything - if we didn't, we'd go insane!) Anyhow, the promo item was this plastic bag looking thing that turns into a vase when you add water to it. We had a good laugh about how ridiculous it was and then added in a few "serious" reasons why it wouldn't work. I offered up that, like most vases, if the flowers are left in too long, there forms that green crap at the bottom and that a hand is too small to get in and clean it.

Fast forward to RIGHT now ... someone put water and flowers into the sample and our director came over to look at it. One of the co-workers mentioned what I pointed out about the cleaning and then I overheard another co-worker say "You can just use a baby bottle brush." And then I heard, this innocent, but jagged words "Well Kim doesn't know about baby stuff." Ouch.

I know it doesn't seem like a big deal and of course it wasn't meant 1. to be hurtful and 2. for me to hear really. My office knows about my struggles. I've been very open about it (since I was missing work for appointments, surgeries and miscarriages) and everyone is so great and understanding. But nevertheless, it still stings when I'm reminded that No, I don't know about anything baby related ... I haven't gotten the chance yet!


  1. UGH!!! RUDE! I admire you for being understanding but I would have been hurt too. I am surrounded at work by women my age who have just had babies. And last night I had a dream that one was pregnant again with twin boys! OMG. Shoot me now. Keep on trucking hon, it will all work out somehow. At lesat we hope. :)

  2. You are so sweet, because I would have taken that like a knife to the heart. I know it wasn't meant to be that way, but it's still SO incredibly rude. It goes back to thinking before speaking. Ugh. Some people just don't care about that, I guess! Hopefully you get your chance soon. Thinking of you.

  3. That totally sucks! I am sorry to hear your colleague was so incredibly inconsiderate:((( booo! on her.
    I have found your blog through a friend and will follow your story. Our TTC history has been quite similar with 'unexplained, IUI's, ectopic and waiting for IVF among the many keywords.
    Cheering for you guys!!!

  4. Those comments are the worst...they say it without thinking and still have no clue how much it hurts.

  5. Booooooo! Dumb, dumb, dumb, ignorant, insensitive souls.

    If I was there, I'd go into protective friend mode and I'd walk right up to her and say...